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What is getting in your way is not what you think. Most people think it is the negative things that stop you but many time it is the things that you THINK are your strengths that actually get in the way.Stubborn- I know best so I will do what I think without paying attention to anyone else.Result is you keep getting the same results over and over. You think that just pushing harder is the answer.Fast learner- I can zip through things faster that anyone else because of my superior intellect.Result is you push faster than you can comprehend and practice. You think that answer is a different learning method that will support super learning.Super man- I can do this anytime I want. Smoking, drinking, working out, staring a project.Result is a sense of false accomplishment and stagnation.Everyone loves me- I have all these people who like me the way I amResult is you rationalize staying the same and keeping the same supportive people around you. You think finding more people who support how you are validates how you are.Perfection- My precision is my strong pointResult is endless preparation without any real progress. You think the answer is learning even more and planning even better.Strengths tend to cover up weakness and allow you to ignore where you are the weakest while giving you a delusional feeling of accomplishment. So you ignore or deny these things exist.This also causes you to over reach when deciding on goals. Instead of losing 10 pounds you shoot for 100. Instead of making more next year you shoot for a million. Instead of changing a few things you eat you want to change your whole diet.You need to make your goals less about accomplishing things and more about gaining strengths by working on where you are weak. Confront that weakness and work on those points.The Reality TestWhat am I willing to do?What am I able to do?What weakness will I have to work on?What will I have to change?What will I have to remove?What is the expected result?Examples:Weight loss:What am I willing to do?Change amount, kind and timing of eating. Work out, Keep track of progress or lack of progress.What am I able to do?Eat less? run? Work out?What weakness will I have to work on?Physical condition, bad knees, attitude, self imageWhat will I have to change?Priorities, social meetings, what I buy, how I work, who I associate withWhat will I have to remove?Eating buddies, crap food from the house, food anchorsWhat is the expected result?A few pounds a month? 10 pounds a week? Done in 90 days?Brutal self evaluation- find the spoilersDo the people around me support where I want to be?Does my environment Support where I want to be?Does my mindset support where I want to be?Manage expectations but…. have expectations. But don’t sabotage yourself2 week30 day90 day6 month* Re-up with broken file fixed, just re-download & it should replace the broken file. Thanks.