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Stan Tatkin – We Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection, and Enduring Love (Published by Sounds True)Quote:”If you and your prospective partner adopt the principles and skills I describe here, your relationship will be successful―not just for starters, but for the long run.”An indispensable guide for any couple ready to set the foundation for a loving and lasting unionCommitting fully to a loving partnership―a “we”―can be one of the most beautiful and fulfilling experiences you’ll ever have. Yet as anyone in a long-term relationship will tell you, it can also be one of the most challenging. Almost half of all first marriages end in divorce, and chances go down from there. So how do you beat the odds?”All successful long-term relationships are secure relationships,” writes psychotherapist Stan Tatkin. “You and your partner take care of each other in a way that ensures you both feel safe, protected, accepted, and secure at all times.”In We Do, Tatkin provides a groundbreaking guide for couples. You’ll figure out whether you and your partner are right for each other in the long term, and if so, give your relationship a strong foundation so you can enjoy a secure and lasting love. Highlights include:Create a shared vision for your relationship, the key to a strong foundation• It’s all about prevention―learn tools and techniques for preventing problems before they occur• Understand how to work with the psychological and biological influences in your relationship―neuroscience, arousal regulation, attachment theory, and more• Numerous case studies with helpful examples of healthy and unhealthy interactions, sample dialogues, and reflections• Dozens of exercises―the newlywed game, reading facial expressions, and many more fun and serious practices to develop intimacy and security• Handling conflict―how to broker win-win outcomes• Build a loving relationship that helps you thrive and grow as both individuals and a coupleCommon interests, physical attraction, shared values, and good communication skills are the factors most commonly thought to indicate a good partnership. Yet surprisingly, current research reveals that these are only a small part of what makes for a healthy marriage―much more important are psychological and biological influences. With We Do, you’ll learn to navigate these elements and more, giving your relationship the best possible chance to succeed.Open for everyoneNumber of pages: 224Year of publication: 2018Url: https://www.amazon.com/We-Do-Relationship-Connection-Endurin…Amazon rating: 4.7 out of 5 stars (21 reviews)Amazon 5 star review wrote:All of Stan Tatkin’s books are good. As couples counselors, we’ve recommended “Wired for Love” to our clients for many years, always to great effect. This new book is like the capstone on a pyramid. He brings it all together – all that knowledge and wisdom about people and their relationships – into a readable and instructive manual for making your relationship work better – or work in the first place. Highly recommended. It’s our new “Go-To” book for our clients.Amazon 5 star review wrote:Great evidence-based help for couples. Dr. Tatkin provides important cutting-edge info and great strategies for couples wanting a more loving, lasting and satisfying relationship. Clear and practical – with minimal jargon!Amazon 5 star review wrote:It’s my birthday and I can cry if want to.Yes it is, and I’ve spent the morning/afternoon reading this book. I have one question, Mr. Author: what if you put us couple therapists out of business over the next ten years or so? I certainly hope you will use the profits gained to set up an early retirement fund for us. What if couples used this book right from the beginning? What if they figured out how to do all the things they currently spend their hard-earned money and time in arduous (albeit, with some of us very rewarding) couples therapy? I have never seen a better guide to how trouble shoot, before trouble appears.And maybe after that too. This is not a book for just pre-commitment ceremony/weddings. This book could help you see where you went wrong, in your previous relationships or maybe the one you are still in. After you stop banging your head against the wall for not knowing what to prioritize when it might have prevented the divorce, you can still use it to have great conversations with your current partner/spouse.For those with relationships that work well enough, the book may provide a little tweak, possibly some language for what you already know is needed but couldn’t say as well; or it could help you through a particularly difficult crisis or transition, say to a first child, an empty nest, or the assisted living housing. How could it ever be too late to “we do” and do it well?This book does much of what good therapists, specialized in couples, would do with a couple, whether in distress or trying to ward it off in the future. It would be valuable for anyone you know who is getting together, moving apart, or facing new difficulties. And for someone alone, it could help them hold in mind what to look for in a future mate, and what to expect to have to be good at to keep them.May you find peace, true LOVE, and prosperity,Aeon