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Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself [UNABRIDGED]    by Melody Beattie    Narrated by Christina Moore    Source: http://www.audible.com    LENGTH: 8 hrs and 24 mins    AUDIBLE RELEASE DATE: 01-02-06Publisher’s SummaryQuote:A source of healing and inspiration for millions, this modern classic spent over three years on the New York Times best seller list and made codependency a household word. Codependent No More contains dozens of real-life examples, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests to help you along the road to recovering your own life. For anyone struggling with a relationship involving alchoholism or other compulsive behaviors, this program points the way to healing and the renewal of hope. Melody Beattie’s insights into the nature of the phenomenon of codependency will guide you step by step to the understanding that letting go will set you free.©1987, 1992 Hazelden Foundation; (P)2005 Recorded Books, LLCAMAZON Book Description:5 stars: (249)Is someone else’s problem your problem? If, like so many others, you’ve lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else’s, you may be codependent–and you may find yourself in this book.The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America’s best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life.With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency–charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness.Melody Beattie is the author of Beyond Codependency, The Language of Letting Go, Stop Being Mean to Yourself, and Playing It by Heart.Amazon Review:Quote:My Upside-Down Life Found Balance and I’m Back On My Feet!, February 28, 2005 By Peter V. Cannice “Peter Vincent Cannice of Sc… (Scottsdale, Arizona USA)This review is from: Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself (Paperback)Instead of spending hours of your time, expressing how anxious and depressed I was, and for so many years, I’d share a few things that might tell my story of recovery in a more concise mode.I had everything but had nothing. I had been Senior Class President, Top 2% in the Country during College, successful in modeling and acting, selected as Volunteer of the Year for the State of Iowa and the list of “stuff” could go on an on. I was so empty inside myself that I didn’t any longer know how I felt inside. I was losing any sense of who I was.I’d become someone that functioned to serve, protect, nurture, encourage, forgive and love someone that couldn’t love back. I was with the same person, in a marriage, for almost 5 years, and woke up one morning and realized that the person next to me was a stranger who didn’t know the real me. The person that my life revolved around, the person that I chose to take care of and “cover” for, just liked having me around so I could pick up the pieces and paint a picture of a relationship and a family that was like “Ozzie and Harriet” so that others would think that everything was just fine. I can’t stand the word “fine” anymore. Nothing in my life was fine and it wasn’t until I hit bottom and read “Codependent No More:How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself”, that my life began to change. The book answered all of my questions and caused me to look deeply at myself and my situation and evalute how sick I was. Yes, I was the sick one in the relationship too.I thought that I was doing everything right or doing what was right for my relationship. But I didn’t ever consider that my own personal cup was empty and the only person who could fill it with healthy things was me. I didn’t know that I was controlling others as I only saw myself as a caring and loving person. What had happened is that I went overboard-WAY overboard to the point that I had stopped eating, started using pills to medicate my pain and refused to make changes in my life.I was scared. I didn’t want to be alone in life. What I didn’t realize is that I was already alone. I wanted to love and be loved. After reading this incredible book, I realized that I wasn’t being loved. I was being used and abused and I needed to hit this emotional bottom before I would accept help. My therapist advised me to purchase “Codependent No More”, by Melody Beattie AND to read it. I almost felt odd going into the self-help are of the book store. Little did I know that the healthiest place in any book store is the aisle that reads “Self Help”!I owe my life to this book and I thank all of the wonderful people who contributed to the stories in this book, that allowed me to move out of my relationship and to enter a long recovery period. I am still in the care of a therapist. Sometimes I act in a codependent fashion. The difference, however, is that I now see red flags that prevent me from getting too deep into relationships that I reach a point where I lose myself.I offer this review to you as a gift. May this book help you, no matter what your circumstance, and may you take hold of your life again. You deserve to learn how to care for yourself. You deserve to be loved and to learn how to accept the beauty that comes with a healthy relationship.My Warmest Regards to ALL!Peter CanniceScottsdale, ArizonaDescription from has begun for millions of individuals with this straightforward guide. through personal examples and exercises, readers are shown how controlling others forces them to lose sight of their own needs and happiness.About the AuthorBeattie was a struggling single parent of two children and freelance author and journalist cranking out stories for a small-town daily newspaper in 1986 when she came up with a book idea. She wanted to write a book about what happens to people when they love someone who is addicted to alcohol and other drugs.”There were many books out there about how to help an addict or alcoholic. Nobody was talking about how an addict impacts the lives of the people around him or her, and how crazy you can become when you love someone who is addicted,” Beattie said. “Even though I was sober, I didn’t know how crazy I could get until it happened to me.” Twenty publishers turned down Beattie’s book proposal. “It’s a good idea, but we don’t think there’s that many codependents out there,” they wrote back.Hazelden, however, a treatment center and recovery publisher based in Minnesota, saw a need for the book. The publisher understood how families of alcoholics suffer and believed Beattie’s book idea would help people. Beattie marched to the welfare department, asked for enough financial help to make it through the three months it would take her to write the book, then locked herself in a basement office and cranked out Codependent No More. Codependent No More has now sold 3.5 million copies. Beattie has since written nine more books, five for major publishing houses on the east and west coasts. She relocated from Minnesota to California, and she has long-since paid back the welfare department. Beattie has appeared in the pages of Newsweek and People and has been a regular guest on Geraldo and Oprah. Playing It By Heart is Beattie’s first original book for Hazelden since 1990; the book is a return to her recovery roots that first brought her national recognition.NOTE: This is an unabridged version of seperated into sepearate CDs and tracks.The former product has zero seeds was snatched only 16 times the original uploader was last seen 28 weeks ago and reseed request (so I can compare versions) has gone on unnoticed. I suspect the original upload is dead (the product not the member :p) and that no active member has a copy of the original product. And I’m guessing the original is probably not the unabridged version from audible.com that I have downloaded from 4dll or some other site and verified by reading along with a hard copy to see it is truly the word-for-word unabridged version of the book. The version I have is separate CDs broken into 135 tracks, not one big mp3 file, as the existing [likely dead] product is.The original is probably not the unabridged version since it is one big mp3 file and not separate CD tracks as this verionn is.