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This is Max Nachamkin’s “Anti-Method” essay in e-book format, converted from the Markdown source. I have also included the videos he references in the text.His teachings might strike a chord with those who have followed Zan Perrion, Brent Smith, David Deida and/or John Cooper’s Social Heartistry. In a nutshell, allow the natural process of attraction to unfold without obstructing it.There are no tactics here — it’s all inner game. There are some Sedona Method-like exercises in releasing subconscious agendas and expectations, however. Mostly, though, it is a philosophy of how attraction works at the most basic level, using “gravity” and “the sun” as teaching metaphors.It’s a little “fluffy”, so you might get something out of it or you might not. Either way, it’s a short read, so I’m putting it up here for people to download and discuss.From the introductionDating is one of the most confusing aspects of life that’s out there. In a world where you can get tips and perspectives from anyone or anywhere on the Internet, there’s no shortage of advice.And a lot of it works temporarily, but falls short in the long-run when it comes to creating fulfilling relationships where both people feel connected without having to force it to work.There’s good intentions in the advice but when it comes to real-world practicality, men are still having to try hard to get the connection they want…Which personally I believe should be effortless, not confusing and difficult.When I was younger I really wanted to understand women and relationships. I was a computer programmer, web designer, avid video game player. But I felt clueless when it came to women.Like most guys connected to the Internet, I went searching for help. Unlike most guys, I invested over $20,000 into different bootcamps, seminars, products, and coaches in the personal development space. Not to mention the thousands of hours I put into applying the advice I got.I first started off 7 years ago with an e-book on how to date girls in college. It’s been a journey since then — I’ve had one-night stands, polyamorous relationships, monogamous relationships, and everything in-between. I’ve battle-tested all the different techniques, perspectives, and paradigms that I could possibly find when it comes to dating and relationships. And at the end of it all, here’s what I realized…What actually works in a sustainable way is completely counter-intuitive and contrary to the advice I had been given. It’s not so much about shifting your behavior externally, but it’s about making internal shifts so that attraction happens naturally.And so my intention with this guide is to share with you the wisdom I’ve learned through my own personal experiences, to the best of my ability, in the hopes that it will simplify your dating life completely so that you can move on towards growth in other areas of your life.I spent countless nights suffering in confusion about this stuff, when deep down I just wanted to have a stable sense of how attraction, connection, and relationships worked. I hope this guide can save you the time I spent and offer some perspective that can lead to an amazing relationship in your life.Here’s what you’ll learn in this guide: How to develop attractiveness towards women on a fundamental level, beyond the need for pickup lines, trying-hard, or approaching How to get to a place where women approach you and pick you up, not the other way around One widely-applicable exercise that you can do anywhere, any place, that will improve your connection to women over and over again.