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From Publishers WeeklyThe bestselling author (The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands), columnist and talk show host does not deviate from her strong belief that women are largely responsible for happy marital unions, which should be their first priority. For Schlessinger, “feminism robbed women of their essence and their ability to find pure joy and happiness,” but the fair sex can regain that by promoting a traditional relationship with their husbands. Many of Schlessinger’s golden rules recall suggestions from previous books: avoid interfaith marriage, stay together for the sake of the children and never say no to a husband who wants sex. Never insist that a man wash his own dishes, either; both women and men should respect the division of labor and a woman’s status as homemaker. Although Schlessinger acknowledges that men have a responsibility to communicate and recommends that they express gratitude to their wives for domestic attentions, she clearly delineates a successful marriage as one between a male financial provider and a female emotional caregiver. She includes a digression on the differences between the sexes and the masculine/feminine polarity. Though this latest guide will confirm Dr. Laura’s retrograde views for many, devotees will continue to look to her for answers.From BooklistFollowing up on the popularity of her book The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands (2003), Schlessinger states that her goal here is to reintroduce readers to the meaning of femininity and masculinity and how an understanding of sex roles can benefit marriage partners. Her second goal is to shine a light on selfishness, which “has become accepted in our society” and threatens marital bliss. Drawing on her experience as a popular talk show host, Schlessinger recalls the questions posed by listeners and her advice to them. Recovered feminists lament their mistaken notions of sexual equality as Schlessinger enlightens them on the power of true femininity. She expounds on the different ways that men and women communicate and how modern feminism has undermined men’s and women’s images of marriage and the sex roles within marriage. She offers love alerts and do’s and don’ts to maintain healthy marriages. Schlessinger’s fans will love this book; unrecovered feminists may not. REVIEWThe main idea of this book is to point to BOTH husbands and wives that they have a responsibility in marriage and it starts with a good attitude.It  brings out how husbands can contribute to their wife’s “desire” to properly care and feed them. I think I like this book better than the others because it really does highlight how men and women interact to create a loving marriage. She still gives a lot of the responsbility to women, especially in the first few chapters, but she points out that men shouldn’t see it as an “obligation,” but as a gift to be grateful for. She tells both wives and husbands to be appreciative instead of holding expectations all the time and griping out of disappointment that you’re not being treated like you deserve. Her advice is simple. Treat them how you would want to be treated. Look for the positive. Give 110% and you’ll get back much more in return. If your marriage has been rough, give it time to heal. Don’t expect change overnight. Marriage is hard work, but it should be fun; not a sibling relationship. Sex is what binds men to their women (men are not just horny jerks who see their wives as sex objects). Respect each other. It’s about WE not ME. The only thing that I think I didn’t like is how she rants about “feminism” so much. As a woman I think that we can just plain be bums (feminsim aside) and blame our kids, hormones, PMS, fatique, and everything else for why we don’t have the energy to treat our husbands properly. I know plenty of women who don’t see themselves as feminists who are still jerks to their husbands. Just look past the feminist bashing and get to the substance that’s deeper in the book and you’re sure to be motivated to be a better spouse (both husband and wife) in some way. The book gains more substance the further you read. If your marriage needs improvement in any way, I can guarantee you won’t be wasting your time in reading this book. She has a very straight-forward, sometimes funny tone that can actually make things lighter for you. I really like how she encourages those who have “been to hell” in their marriage that there is a lot of hope, and even hope that this struggle can make your marriage more solid than ever. How’s that for optimism? Happy reading and long live your marriage!