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Your ProfessorJohn Howard is a couples therapist, spiritual teacher and educator who teaches on the new science of relationship. He has a fun and irreverent way of helping people deepen their lives together.Class OverviewTune in to this class as John, creator of the Ready, Set, Love program explains how to keep romantic attraction alive in relationships through new understandings from neuroscience and psychology.How to Keep Romance Alive in Your Relationship!We all want to keep romance alive in our relationships. But how? So many of us experience a decline in attraction and interest as we become more familiar to one another. We seem to lose some of the romance and passion we had early on. Some researchers suggest that emotional closeness and sexual attraction are incompatible. Others say the opposite, that deepening friendship enhances romantic desire. Which is it? Couples therapist John Howard explains how to keep romantic attraction alive in long-term relationships through new understandings from neuroscience and psychology. John is the creator of the Ready, Set, Love program that uses new science to strengthen security and passion in long-term relationships.The Top 10 Big Ideas    1    There’s No ‘Normal’    What works is what the unique relationship between you and your partner decides is fun and exciting. The bottom line is that you get to experiment for yourselves.    2    The Brain Loves Novelty    OK, here’s the deal. The part of the brain that experiences lust is also stimulated by novelty. John will explain how to keep things new and exciting to the brain in different ways.    3    Sex is Play!    Mammals often include sex as part of play. As humans, we sometimes exclude the play from sex. Bring it back! Sex and romance are a chance to have fun with each other physically, mentally and with humor!    4    It’s All About the Eyes    Couples researcher Dr. Stan Tatkin writes that close eye contact lights up the brain like nothing else. Close eye contact counts as novelty as far as the brain is concerned, because the eyes are always changing, new and exciting.    5    Romance is Intimate    One of the primary ways we continue to generate newness in long-term relationships is by deepening our emotional connection and becoming more vulnerable, real and honest with one another. This kind of intimacy counts as novelty and engenders attraction, interest and closeness.    6    Talking About Fantasies    We all have them. They may be with our partner or with others. Don’t be afraid to discuss them; they hold important clues to what turns us on in different phases of life and can enhance your sex life.    7    Sharing Preferences    Sex can get tired and boring if we aren’t communicating enough about what we’re into. Communicating before, during and after sex is great. Don’t hold back.    8    The Madonna/Whore Thing    The Madonna-whore complex has been debunked. First of all, it degrades women. Second, it degrades men. But there is truth to the switch that occurs in some around both honoring and being lustful with our partner.    9    Secure Attachment and Sexual Desire Are Not the Same    Couples therapist Esther Perel writes about two impulses we have inside, one to connect with safety, and one to ravage another animal in pure sexual lust. Both can coexist in the same relationship, although sometimes we are afraid to exhibit both with our partner.    10    Don’t Shun Outside Influence!    If you want to keep the juice flowing in your love life even in a long-term relationship, don’t be averse to tapping resources like couple friends, professional advisors and John’s free newsletter at www.ReadySetLove.com.—————————————————————————–5 part seriesHow to Practice the New Science of Relationship to Keep Romance Alive in Your Relationship! to Read the Owner’s Manual for Your Partner to Keep Your Relationship Strong for the Long-Term to Deconstruct Your Partner’s Emotional Tantrums