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Please keep this in elib.tech. Thanks.Stop pushing people away and get real intimacyDo you push people away and then regret it? Do you find yourself feeling lonely and isolated as a result? Maybe you have been using the self-destructive strategy of pushing away the moment you feel they are getting ‘too close.’ Perhaps you become habitually angry with them or chronically unreliable so that they eventually ‘give up on you’ and no longer seek contact. You may constantly ‘end it’ with others before they have a chance to walk away from you.Why people push others away:There are all kinds of reasons why we may cut off people from our lives. Fear of rejection – (if you reject them first they can’t reject you). Distrust and cynicism – the ‘everybody let’s you down sooner or later’ approach so let’s get rid of them now’! Perhaps you don’t have the necessary friendship skills to actually maintain proper relationships. Or maybe you’ve imagined signs of rejection from others and so pushed them away, confusing or hurting them. Having quality relationships equals health and happiness:Whatever the reason, constantly pushing people away is self-defeating because the more friends and acquaintances you have the more you embrace life (research even shows that the wider your social network the more mentally and physically healthier you are). Pushing people away when in fact they would be good in your life is really down to anxiety. When you begin to relax around the prospect of getting along with people and forming mature relationships which can be a real boon then you become happier. This session will help you relax, trust and stay calm with people in your life so you no longer need to push them away.