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While there’s no doubt that setting high standards for yourself is a good thing, you’ve probably already noticed that perfectionism can come at a high price. And when you take steps to try to change, it’s easy to beat yourself up and fall into the same traps that keep you feeling stressed and disappointed. This book presents a revolutionary approach to overcoming perfectionism-a way to transform your need for precision into self-acceptance, compassion, and love for each perfectly imperfect passing moment in our lives. In Present Perfect, you’ll use the Buddhist psychology of mindfulness to learn to accept the present moment in all of its ordinary perfection. This book is filled with over 150 exercises and meditations that you can practice to become more flexible toward yourself and others without losing your love of a job well done. With this compassionate approach, you’ll soon be able not only to accept life as it is, but also become more accepting and forgiving of yourself and others.ContentsCover Title Page Contents IntroductionPart 1 – Introduction to perfectionism in general and toyour perfectionism in particular Chapter 1 360° of perfectionismPart 2 – Perfectly imperfect, completely incomplete, and just soChapter 2 Broadening the meaning of perfectionChapter 3 Perfectly imperfect: from dualities and dichotomies to suchnessChapter 4 Completely incomplete: a process view of perfectionPart 3 – Overcoming mindlessness, guilt, shame, and motivational apathyChapter 5 The rehabilitation of conscious choiceChapter 6 Finding perfection in a mistakeChapter 7 From guilt to regret: rediscovering motivational innocence Chapter 8 From resentment and reluctance to renewed enthusiasm Part 4 – Rehabilitation of your self-view Chapter 9 From self-esteem to self-acceptanceChapter 10 Breaking away from the mirror: dis-identification and re-identification Part 5 – Time, performance, and uncertaintyChapter 11 From here to here: developing a healthy relationship with timeChapter 12 From outcome to process: in search of perfect performanceChapter 13 Embracing the uncertainty of the futureChapter 14 Beyond certainty: cultivating the don’t-know mindPart 6 – Coexistence, compassion, connectionChapter 15 From social vacuum to compassionate coexistenceReferencesAbout the authorPaperback: 208 pagesPublisher: New Harbinger Publications; 1 edition (June 3, 2010)Language: EnglishISBN-10: 1572247568ISBN-13: 978-1572247567ASIN: B003SNKF9C