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Class OverviewIs there a roadmap that will help me navigate the transition into the Real World as a 30-Something Year old? Ilene will unpack this idea with questions to dive deeper into experiencing our 30’s. (Check out the Top 10 Big Ideas from the class below!)Your ProfessorIlene Serlin, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and dance/movement therapist. She is the founder and director of Union Street Health Associates and the Arts Medicine Program at California Pacific Medical Center.How to Gracefully Transition Through Your 30’sI used to think developmental stages were contrived and of course I rebelled…But actually when I turned 30…only now do I recognize patterns I’m seeing in people who come into my office. I’m excited to teach this class somewhat because I like the possibility of helping people make the transition gracefully….maybe a roadmap.Here is the big idea: “Is there a roadmap that will help me navigate the transition into the Real World as a 30-Something Year old?The Top 10 Big Ideas1What’s Wrong With Me?A 28-year old beautiful young woman, been to 7 weddings that week-end, panic attacks:    What’s wrong with me?    Am I: too fat, too smart, too confused? 2Is There ”The One”?    I don’t feel butterflies—is that a reason to reject?    Should I feel butterflies—is that a good enough reason to go forward?    Can I “settle?”    Am I ready?    My parents come from a traditional culture, don’t understand me, and want me to make the kinds of choices they approve of.    I feel resentful and confused.    I don’t trust my own perceptions anymore.    How do I know if I’ve made the right decision? 3Is This the Right Job for Me?    I’ve spent my whole life striving for this position, and I hate my work.    I want to do something more meaningful, but I’m afraid to jeopardize my lifestyle.    I’m bored with my work.    I’m scared of the future—the expenses and responsibilities of raising a family in SF.    What is my personality? A risk-taker? Entrepreneur?    How important is stability?    Does anything have stability anymore? 4How Do I Deal with My Anxiety and Confusion?    I’m not sleeping well    I party too hard    I’d rather not party, but I want to be accepted and among friends I don’t want to be alone.    I’m getting discouraged with the job search and with Match.com.5Imposter Syndrome    Even though others at work think I’m smart and put together, they don’t know what a quivering mess I really am inside.    So if someone compliments me, I don’t take it too seriously. But I sure do obsess about my negative reviews.    I don’t want to be part of any club that would want me.6Fear of Success    If I success, then I’ll really have to climb up the ladder. It is safer to stay where I am and not risk failure.    I’m sabotaging myself at work and I really can’t explain why I make the same mistakes over and over.    I can’t really surpass my parents and their achievements.7Where Do I Belong?    My parents were from the old country, I feel very American—but family is still important to me.    They don’t understand me, and I’m afraid to bring home my new girlfriend/boyfriend. 8I Don’t Want to Grow Up    It is too much responsibility.    I’m not having fun anymore.    I work so hard that I come home, crash on the couch, and do it again the next day.    I already feel stuck in a rut, and worry about the box I’m putting myself in.    I still think of myself as a girl—or boy.    Being a woman—or man– is still like trying on a role to me, doesn’t really real. 9The Clock is Ticking…Everyone is so pressured.    Should I freeze my eggs?    I regret wasting time in my 20s.    I’ll never be able to buy a house in SF. 10What’s the Meaning of it All?    This is it?    I’ve arrived???    What do I have to live for?    Where’s my Passion?