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http://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Practical-Relationships-Adventures/dp/1587613379Publication Date: March 10, 2009The essential guide for singles and couples who want to explore polyamory in ways that are ethically and emotionally sustainable.For anyone who has ever dreamed of love, sex, and companionship beyond the limits of traditional monogamy, this groundbreaking guide navigates the infinite possibilities that open relationships can offer. Experienced ethical sluts Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy dispel myths and cover all the skills necessary to maintain a successful and responsible polyamorous lifestyle–from self-reflection and honest communication to practicing safe sex and raising a family. Individuals and their partners will learn how to discuss and honor boundaries, resolve conflicts, and to define relationships on their own terms.”I couldn’t stop reading it, and I for one identify as an ethical slut. This is a book for anyone interested in creating more pleasure in their lives . . . a complete guide to improving any style of relating, from going steady to having an extended family of sexual friends.” –Betty Dodson, PhD, author of Sex for One Paperback: 296 pagesPublisher: Celestial Arts; 2nd edition (March 10, 2009)Language: EnglishISBN-10: 1587613379ISBN-13: 978-15876133715.0 out of 5 stars Amazing, essential book for all relationships, April 24, 2009By IReadInTrees (San Francisco, CA, US)The Ethical Slut is incredible!I first read The Ethical Slut (first edition) as part of a college course. As an undergrad, I was already well on my way to being a proud slut – I did the usual versions of short-term college dating, hookups, friends-with-benefits, threesomes, and the like, with or without a committed partner at various times. It all felt natural and right, but there were invariably awkward moments of poor negotiation, misunderstood communication, and mis-handled jealousy.When I read The Ethical Slut, I found an amazing wealth of information and suggestions on how I could make my various relationships work better and more smoothly. I wished I’d had this book all along – it would have saved so much trouble! If only I’d known that an agreement to “see other people” wasn’t nearly complete enough! The Ethical Slut lays out all the things to think about in having open relationships of various sorts. I’ve been called a slut since I was 14, but it was this book that gave me the idea that being a slut could be a good thing – and now I couldn’t be happier with my fabulous life as a proud slut.The Ethical Slut is an entertaining, readable, real-life explanation of all the options in relationships. Whether you want to be single or partnered or grouped, poly or monogamous, or whatever else, this book helps you figure out all the possibilities better. It’s THE relationship book for anyone who wants more options than a “leave-it-to-beaver” relationship.If you’re just starting to explore open relationships, or you’re even just thinking about it, there’s no better place to start than with this book. And if you’re already immersed in poly life, it’s got the “advanced level” information you need. For those who know and love the first edition, the second edition is definitely worth adding to your collection. There’s a ton of new information on the really crucial details of how to make all sorts of poly and open relationships work.The second edition now has exercises exercises, taken from Dossie Easton’s work as a therapist with poly folks, that you and/or your partner(s) can work on together. I loved the new section on living as a single slut – which makes the point that sluthood and open loving can be an identity that doesn’t require a conventional partnership to secure or ground it. It also offers ideas on how to get one’s needs met from a network of friends and lovers – useful information for pretty much anyone. The new segments on handling jealousy and conflict are especially good for those of us who have been involved in poly relationships for some time and need the more detailed info, from the voices of experience, to help through the rough spots. I feel like I’m always learning in poly relationships, and every time I go back to The Ethical Slut, there’s some tidbit that helps with the complicated, hard, or unexpected parts of a generally fabulous poly life.Whether you’ve read the first edition or not, this is definitely a book you should own. I’ve read it 3 or 4 times now, and I keep going back to it to check out certain sections that become more relevant as I encounter new poly challenges.Rather than offering generalities and theories, The Ethical Slut speaks from many people’s experience over many decades. It’s the real-life information that you need to make all your relationships amazing!!(and, speaking of making sex and play and relationships amazing, check out some of Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy’s other books – The Topping Book, The Bottoming Book, When Someone You Love Is Kinky, and Radical Ecstasy!) Please contribute back by OCRing *and* Spellchecking/Proofreading (!) this book. I recommend ABBYY Finereader 10 (or 11) for doing this work in a relatively easy way. There are other applications as well. The important thing is to spellcheck and correct any mistakes the automatic software run did – often people just run automatic conversion and upload here a pdf that has many mistakes and/or can’t be converted to other digital formats.If you start to do the process please leave a comment here so the effort won’t be duplicated by others. Thank you.