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This new exclusive material is part of the Nick Kemp-Andrew Austin-New NLP Mastery group buy.This group buy is still open & the forum is listed at: With Negative Self-Talk: v1 & v2Author: Steve AndreasPublished: 2010Description:  2 ebooks (v1 & v2) combined into 1 PDF with bookmarks added.How You Talk to Yourself Can Make You Miserable…Or Positively Joyful!Negative self-talk makes people feel bad. These bad feelings are the trigger for a huge variety of problems and difficulties, including…Most eating disordersAlcohol and other substance abuse and addictionsAnxiety and panic disorderAnger and violenceDepressionProcrastinationSelf-confidence & self-esteem issues…the list goes on and on.Often the people who suffer from these problems don’t realize that they are caused by inner critics, internalized parents, and other troublesome inner voices because they are so focused on the horrible feelings that result from them. Sometimes this negative self-talk is playing constantly in the background, like a song stuck on repeat!It is very difficult to directly change an unpleasant emotion, but often quite easy to change an inner voice. When the voice changes, the feelings usually change with it, allowing for a more resourceful response to life’s challenges.By learning how you talk to yourself, you can easily learn new and more helpful ways to do so.This two-volume set will help you to transform troublesome inner voices, critics, and bullies into helpful allies—often very quickly and easily.Volume 1 presents a wide variety of very simple and ridiculously rapid interventions to reduce or eliminate the power of negative self-talk, and how to talk to yourself more positively. Volume 2 presents how to communicate directly with an internal voice, and use a variety of interventions that can transform a negative internal voice into a helpful and supportive ally.So How Do We Change a Troublesome Inner Voice?Well, first we need to identify how not to. Most books about negative self-talk make one or more of three major mistakes:1. The first mistake is to focus narrowly on negative self-talk, ignoring all the wonderful things that our internal voices do for us. Besides being the basis for communicating with others, internal voices make it possible to for us to plan, dream, remember treasured memories from the past, create a better future, and organize our activities in a multitude of other useful ways. If you have ever seen someone who has lost their ability to use language because of a stroke or some other kind of brain damage, you know how devastating that is.If you focus only on the negative self-talk, it is easy to conclude that all self-talk is bad, and want to completely eliminate internal voices. (See Silencing Internal Voices on Steve’s NLP blog.) Silencing the “chattering monkey” voices have been the goal of a wide variety of paths to “enlightenment,” some of them thousands of years old. Eliminating a voice is very difficult—if not impossible—but changing a troublesome voice into something more useful and pleasant is surprisingly easy.2. The second major mistake is to argue with a voice that talks to you in a negative way. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and many other approaches advocate arguing with internal negative self-talk as a way to make it less impactful and destructive. Arguing with another person typically creates conflict. Usually the other person argues back even louder and longer, and arguing very rarely leads to any resolution. Arguing with an internal voice has the same result—it usually doesn’t solve the original problem but only adds another one.3. The third mistake is to focus entirely on the words, and ignore the impact of tonality on the message—the volume and tone of voice, the tempo and timbre, hesitations, and all the other nonverbal aspects that carry the meaning of the words. By changing these tonal aspects of what a voice says you can easily change the meaning, and that will change your feeling response to what it says. There are many ways to change tonality, and they are surprisingly easy to do.The author’s web site is at:http://www.realpeoplepress.com/Please keep this a elib exclusive, thanks.Thanks to ddelias for starting this group buy, special thanks to Slair for the assistance, and to everyone who is supporting this group buy.Contributors: Ratio FreeElite/VIP: 3 weeksPower Users (PU): 7 weeksThis group buy is still open.Users: Upgrade to PU or contribute at:, Mazen