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Info page: www.amazon.com/Good-Leave-Stay-Step-Step/dp/0452275350/8 hours 33 minutesFrom Publishers WeeklyTrying to make the agonizing decision whether to get out of a troubled, potentially life-wrecking relationship is the specific ambivalence this book addresses. The reader is offered a focused way to deal with one critical issue at a time rather than sort endlessly through the whole messy bundle of emotional pros and cons. Kirshenbaum’s expertise allows her to pinpoint the pertinent questions. The Boston psychotherapist, who does relationship counseling, offers a series of them, amplified with guidelines: “Power people poison passion”; “If your partner can’t even see what it is about him that makes you want to get out, it’s time to get out”; “If it never was very good, it’ll never be very good.” And threaded through the book, which is written in a sympathetic, chatty, accessible style, are validating anecdotes that dramatize how other people have experienced and responded to the same problems the reader is going through.From Library JournalFor those struggling to decide if a relationship is worth trying to save, Kirshenbaum (clinical director, Chestnut Hill Inst.) knows the issues and explains them clearly, presenting 36 well-phrased and well-ordered diagnostic questions, giving examples, and then succinctly offering guidelines to follow. Those who give certain answers to the diagnostic questions will be faced not only with a realization of how deep the problems may be but also with Kirshenbaum’s repeated admonitions that “most people who answered the question the way you did were happy they left and unhappy they stayed.” Her emphatic prescriptions for such nuanced problems, as well as her promise that “new hope is now entirely realistic for you” and assurance that “there are definite answers for you here,” should make most readers wary. But Kirshenbaum does caution that “nothing in the book overrules what a good therapist…might tell you,” and she will help readers sort out ambivalent feelings about relationships. For larger public library collections.?Susan E. Burdick, Reading, Pa.Product DescriptionDrawing on case studies, a psychotherapist offers guidelines to help singles and spouses decide whether to leave a relationship or whether enough good remains to make it worth working through conflicts. Reprint.”About the AuthorMira Kirshenbaum is an individual and family psychotherapist in private practice and the clinical director of the Chestnut Hill Institute in Massachusetts. She is the author of four books, including the phenomenally successful Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay (available from Plume), and has appeared on many national television shows, including The Today Show, Maury Povich, Geraldo, Sally Jessy Raphael, and an ABC News special with John Stossel. She is married, has two grown children, and lives in Boston, Massachusetts. –This text refers to an alternate Paperback edition.