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mp3 – not perfect quality, but it can be listened and understand. It’s kind of a interview 75 minutes long.________________________________________________________________WHAT’S INSIDE: What is the REAL advantage to “first meetings” vs.“first dates”?We covered everything from what to do if you have no car and nomoney, to what to do if you have TOO MUCH money.When you listen to the replay you can also expect to get someamazing ideas for where to take women, of course, along with somegonzo secrets to getting her to actually come to YOUR PLACE.And there’s a ton more, of course.Now if you WERE on the call, you’ve probably taken full advantageof that ridiculous deal I’ve nicknamed “Six Dozen Experts”.Check it out. Co-hosts Brad Jackson and Bill Preston KNEW I wasgoing to tell everyone on the call about their amazing Guru BlackBook program, which features over two dozen world-class experts.THE ADVANTAGES OF FIRST MEETINGS VS. FIRST DATESOn Thursday night’s call about where to take women on first dates,Brad, Bill and I talked quite a bit about the concept of “firstmeeting” vs. “first date”.And we disagreed some–albeit in a friendly way–over whether or notit was a good idea to actually CALL a meeting with a woman you’reromantically interested in a “date”.There was even some commotion over whether a “first meeting” and a“first date” are the SAME THING or not.Some good points were made. If you weren’t on the call, you canhear ‘em all using the replay link above.But there was ONE thing that we DIDN’T cover that I wanted to touchbase with you about, and this newsletter presents the perfectopportunity.Assuming there IS a difference between a “first meeting” and a“first date”, what are those differences?And what’s more, what are the real-world advantages of “firstmeetings” over “first dates”?Quickly, let’s get that first question out of the way.For all intents and purposes here, we’ll treat the term “firstdate” as referring to an event where both the man and the womanKNOW they’re there because they’re romantically involved.A “first meeting”, on the other hand, is a meeting between a manand a woman where the “romantic intent” is still undecided, or atthe very least hasn’t been verbally clarified yet.So in other words, if you ask out someone who you work with or whois in one of your college classes, it’s safe not to kidyourself–she’s going to know you’re interested in her, and you canpretty much guess she’s at least potentially interested in you.After all, you’ve already MET each other before.But if you’ve been e-mailing some chick online back and forth andfinally pull the trigger on seeing what she’s like in person, THATget-together would be a “first meeting”.In that case you’re actually MEETING for the FIRST time.Fair enough?Okay, then.On the surface, you might imagine that it would universally ROCK tobe on a “first date” rather than a “first meeting”. After all, the“intentions” are out on the table.But not so fast.Here are two compelling reasons why “first meetings” might resultin GREATER OVERALL DATING SUCCESS because, perhaps ironically, theycan actually lead to BETTER “first dates”:1) You Create An Extra Level Of Anticipatory EnergySure, someone you’ve never met before could have completelymisrepresented herself, resulting in an awkward situation whenyou’re finally face-to-face.But let’s assume things go well.Because you had never met the woman before, you correctly planned abrief, inexpensive meeting just to pre-evaluate each other.You know, a morning rendezvous at Starbucks for 30 minutes beforeyou both had to go to work, for example.Short and sweet…with a hard stop.Since things went well, you KNOW already that there’s attraction.When you say you want to see her again and she agrees, you’veimmediately got something to LOOK FORWARD TO.And compared to the situation when two people who’ve KNOWN eachother for a while (or even a little while, for that matter) go on a“first date”, this is ALL BRAND NEW.The particularly intense “anticipatory energy” that ensues all butensures that your actual “first date” will be practically ELECTRIC.She’ll be like a little kid at Christmastime counting down theminutes.That doesn’t suck.2) The Pressure Is Off The TableOK, here’s where the “ninja genius” of going on a “first date”AFTER going through the motions of a “first meeting” really grabs ahold of your collar and shakes you.Check it out. Since you’ve ALREADY agreed to see each other again,you KNOW there’s some mutual attraction there.As such, the dreaded “first date pressure” is completely in therear-view mirror (or should be, at least).You can actually plan something somewhat “date-ish” (e.g. iceskating, not “Morton’s – The Steakhouse”) with confidence, prettymuch assured that a TOTAL disaster is likely not looming ahead.Oh, and by the way…psychologically, such a “first date” will FEELlike a “second date”. It’s as if the whole “first date” ritualwas BYPASSED completely.This means, among other things, that if she doesn’t usually “kisson the first date”, she might kiss you on THIS one after all. Getthe idea?So let’s sum this up.When you go out with someone you know socially already, you’ve gotto make sure you get all aspects of a full-on “first date” downpat. That can involve a lot of pressure…if you let it.But when you DON’T know someone very well, you should have a “getto know you meeting” first. In that context, brevity and the lowcost factor aren’t only acceptable, they’re EXPECTED.So in that “first meeting” scenario, you get the uncomfortable(i.e. bad) aspects usually associated with a “first date” out ofthe way QUICKLY and WITHOUT HASSLE.Then, you’re ACTUAL “first date” with that person is highlyanticipated but pressure-free (i.e. good). Let the “fireworks”begin.Outstanding. Chalk one up for online dating…and maybe blind dates.