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A Conscious Life, Cultivating the Seven Qualities of Authentic Adulthood, by Fran Cox & Louis Cox (1996, 245 pages).An OCRed pdf file of the book requested in the forum thread “Best literature for LTR?”: the book jacket:”Are you emotionally literate? What does it really mean to be an adult? A Conscious Life is a rich and groundbreaking exploration of adulthood. A refreshing and enlightening look at what adulthood can and should be, it contrasts the so-called grownup with the truly healthy adult. Offering easily accessible guidelines, stories, and suggestions, A Conscious Life helps you break the cycle of repeating the lives of adults you saw as children. Dr. Louis and Fran Cox provide essential information on how to avoid being controlled by external emotional ‘triggers’ to help you become who you were truly meant to be.”A key distinction the authors make is between adults and grownups: “Adulthood is an internal affair, a state of mind, whereas being a grownup has to do with performing a given set of behaviors.”Chapters and sub-chapter titles:1. Authentic Adulthood: The Seven Operating Principles  What Is an Adult, Anyway?  Grownups Versus Adults  The Principles of Conscious Adulthood  Explorers in an Uncharted Land2. Childhood’s End: The Emergence of the Grownup  Children’s True Nature  How We Get Wounded  Acknowledged and Unacknowledged Abandonment  Operating Principles of the Grownup  The Dance of the Grownup and the Adult3. I Am Here, and You Are Over There  Identity and Belonging  Being and Value  Mastering the Tool of Internal Consciousness  The Inviolability of Selfhood  Entertaining Ambiguities  Permanent Internal Safety  Finding the Intimate Witness Inside4. I Am Safe and Sound Inside My Own Skin  Operating from a Position of Safety  Emotional Triggers  Vulnerability  Sorting Out the Voices Inside You  Practicing Being Safe and Separate5. I Am Curious About Everything That Goes On Inside Me  Claiming Your Unconscious  The Shadow Knows  Delving into the Pit  Learning to Know and Accept All the Parts That Make the Whole  Reclaiming What Belongs to You6. I Learn from My Emotions  The Emotional Banquet  A More Effective Relationship to Emotion  Staying Connected  Making Room in Your Life for Emotional Complexity  In the “I” of the Storm7. I Know There Is Nothing But Now  Loss of the Present Moment and the Grownup’s Sense of Emptiness  The Disappearing Act  Getting Beyond Your Image  The Intimacy of Life in the Present Moment  Eye to I8. I Always Have Power  The Adult’s Power Bank  Power and Validation  Learning and Power  Learning Versus Training  The Power of Creativity  Reclaiming Your Power  Surviving Versus Thriving  Power and Identity  The Choice to Be Powerful  Contacting the Internal Power Source9. I Always Have Limits  The Sources of Psychologically Induced Limits  How Limits Affect Our Relationships to Work  Living with Your Limits  The Fantasy of Perfection  Letting the Grownup and the Adult Live Side-by-Side Within You  Releasing Unnatural Limits10. Reflections on a Society of Authentic Adults  Global Consciousness  Accepting Reality  The Operating Principles of Adulthood at Work  Love and the Adult