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Too Nice for Your Own Good : How to Stop Making 9 Self-Sabotaging Mistakesby Duke RobinsonEnglish | ISBN: 0446673862 | 2000 | EPUB/MOBI | 288 pages | 1 MBIf you’re like most folks, you were raised to be “nice”. Yet you find yourself asking: “If I’m so nice, why isn’t my life better? Why do so many of the nice things I do leave me feeling burned out, bottled up, or bumbling?” In this book, renowned minister and lecturer Duke Robinson tells you why.Robinson knows that our well-intended, socially acceptable, nice behaviors often carry down sides, betray us and end up self-defeating. He nails nine such mistakes we nice people make every day. Look inside this book at the Contents page to see what they are.This book will show you how to correct these mistakes, and in their place put life-affirming, liberating behaviors that will help you avoid frustration, stress and embarrassment. You will learn how to:“ Let go of your need to please everyone.“ Say “no” and feel wonderful about it“ Tell others directly what you want, and actually receive it“ Express anger in ways that heal and help you maintain valued relationships“ Disarm those who criticize or attack you irrationally“ Be effective in sensitive, intimate moments with those you care about“ Stop trying to control, save and protect others and simply support them“ Liberate your true self for a richer, more robust life.Are you, like most of us, too nice for your own good? This remarkable book will empower you to get what you need and deserve out of life¦and still be a nice person!Editorial ReviewsFrom the Inside FlapHIGH PRAISE                                                 for                        TOO NICE FOR YOUR OWN GOOD:                How to Stop Making 9 Self-Sabotaging Mistakes”I hope many people will read this book and benefit from its honesty, eloquence and wisdom.”Rabbi Harold S. Kushner, author of When Bad Things Happen to Good People and How Good do We Have to Be?””Highly readable, insightful, and compassionate…Duke Robinson extracts powerful, eminently practical lessons for everyday living from sound psychological principles.”Martin V. Covington, professor of psychology. University of California at Berkeley”His eloquent message is addressed to all who are striving to live good lives…an upbeat and honest message.”The Library Journal”Profound, provocative, and practical…A thoughtful and deeply felt gift to all of us who get caught between the goodness of our hearts and our own naivete.”Shirley Nice, The Corporate Coach”Do-gooders: Here’s why you burn out…In this book, Robinson shows how too much of a good thing can lead to emotional and physical exhaustion.”New Orleans Times-Picayune”The wit and wisdom of Duke Robinson is about to become national knowledge. And he does more than simply analyze the mistakes we all make as nice persons. Attention to this very readable and practical book can make a good difference in the way we live.”Paul H. Gertmenian, CEO, Henry Gertmenian Co.”The mistakes described in this book are like the common cold…Duke Robinson has done a masteful job defeating these emotional viruses…Reading this book and taking it seriously could save hundreds of hours in therapy, and it’s a lot more fun.”Dr. Robert R. Ball, executive director, the State of California’s Self-Esteem Task Force, and author of Walking on Water”A ‘how-to’ book that breaks new ground…and shares unexpected new approaches that can open doors to more creative living.”Robert McAfee Brown, author, professor emeritus, Pacific School of Religion, Berkeley, CA”Robinson’s nine chapters turn the qualities of niceness inside out: ‘trying to be perfect,’ ‘taking on too much,’ ‘not saying what you want,’ ‘ suppressing anger,’ ‘reasoning with irrationality,’ ‘telling little lies,’ ‘giving advice,’ ‘rescuing others,’ and ‘protecting those in grief. Sound familiar? He says he can help you get over it without becoming an ogre.”The Dallas Morning Newspapers”I wish this book had come along earlier in my career…These practical steps toward authenticity help us put our lives in order and feel good about it.”Darrell Floyd, retired human resources manager, Nissan Motor Corporation, USA”An unsentimental blueprint for complete living as well as a provocation to the highest humanity in all of us.”Leroy Aarons, founder and board member, National Gay and Lesbian Journalists Association and author of Prayers for Bobby”A superb book…transforming…In clear and simple language, Dr. Robinson shows how being ‘nice’ often means living by a tyranny of expectations.”Stanley F. Hogle, former executive director, Interface-Samaritan Counseling Centers”Duke Robinson’s book on ‘mistakes made by nice people’ is a big hit. He shows so clearly how niceness keeps us from growing and dealing honestly with one another.”Presbyterian OutlookAbout the AuthorIn November 2000, Time Warner published this paperback version of Duke Robinson’s award-winning book,  TOO NICE FOR YOUR OWN GOOD: How to Stop Making 9 Self-Sabotaging Mistakes. It has appeared in thirteen languages and as an early Kindle book. Itcontinues to sell briskly just about everywhere.He published his second non-fiction book, CREATE YOUR BEST LIFE: How to Live Fully Knowing One Day You Will Die, in December 2011.In September 2012, he published his first novel, SAVIOR: An Old Notion in a New Novel of Unthinkable Absurdity.Robinson graduated in 1950 from suburban Philadelphia’s HaverfordHigh School. He holds a BA degree in philosophy (1954) from WheatonCollege near Chicago, and a Masters of Divinity degree (1958), fromLouisville Presbyterian Theological Seminary.Since 1960,he has lived in the East Bay of Northern California. For 28 years beforeretiring, he led Oakland’s MontclairPresbyterian Church. For several years during that ministryhe also served as an adjunct professor at San FranciscoTheological Seminary, from which he holds an earned doctorate (1979).Prior to retiring in 1996, he was known widelyas a speaker and appeared frequently on Northern California television.Since 2000, Robinson has lived in Rossmoor, an adult community in WalnutCreek, CA.  Barbara, his beloved wife of 54 years died in 2008 (He writes of her dying, and of his almostdying in 2009, in his book, CREATE YOUR BEST LIFE). Hehas four children, nine wonderful grandchildren and twogreat-grandsons, one four and one not yet a year old, both of whom are geniuses. In April 2014, he published A MIDDLE WAY: The Secular/Spiritual Road to Wholeness.His fifth book, a memoir, STANDING ON MY HEAD … WITH MY FLY OPEN, was published by Big Hat Press of Lafayette, CA, in November 2015. Robinson was eight when he stood on his head.  He hit 83 in January 2016. http://www.amazon.com/Too-Nice-Your-Good-Self-Sabotaging/dp/…