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By Daiel Goleman: the psychology professor from Harvard Universityforword by: Dalai LamaCOVER at:http://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/images/1559276959/ref=dp_image_0/701-8220663-6405917?ie=UTF8&n=916520&s=booksWe all have coping strategies that let us adapt to adversity. Yet as we grow older these thought patterns are no longer needed and we can even pay a price if we continue to use them. According to Tara Bennett-Goleman, such thought patterns are what she calls schema – hidden mental habits that shatter our peace of mind. “Schemas obscure the clarity and spaciousness of our true nature,” says Tara. With over 20 years of study with Buddhist masters from Tibet, Nepal and Burma, Tara takes what she learns to the next level by combining it with a scientific structure based on cognitive therapy and neuroscience – the perfect balance between fact and faith. In this dialogue she and her partner, Daniel Goleman, explore schemas and relate how to use emotional alchemy to change shadows and confusion of the mind into clarity and how to use mindful investigation to see things as they are rather than as we think they are. Their own relationship has grown more loving because of the schema work they have been doing. “When you understand your emotional patterns, you take things much less personally,” says Daniel. The Golemans point out that many times we may unwittingly be attracted to partners who trigger our schemas and the antidote, says Tara, “is mindfulness, which involves being aware of our emotions without being ruled by them.”