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Who’s Been Sleeping in Your Head: The Secret World of Sexual Fantasies by Dr. Brett Kahr, PhD, 2009                                         Contents       A Note on Caution and Confidentiality     xi       Introduction          On the Couch at 7:00 A.M.              1PART ONE THE SECRET CINEMA IN OUR MINDS   1 Why We Make Love with the Lights Out       15   2 The Science of Psychological Fingerprints  25   3 The Intra-Marital Affair          Staging Our Private Theater           69PART TWO A CORNUCOPIA OF FANTASIES   4 Fantasy 101          Tales of Ordinary Explicitness       111   5 Group Formations          Threesomes, Foursomes, and Moresomes 123   6 Cheating          When the Intra-Marital Meets the Extramarital         134   7 I’m Ready for My Close-Up          Fantasies of Celebrities               143   8 Is Your Wife a Lesbian?      Is Your Husband Homosexual?      Is Your Gay Lover Really Straight?        164   9 On Genital Exhibitionism                    186  10 The Erotic Smorgasbord          Fetishism, Transvestism, Homeovestism, and Other Forms of object-Love         194  11 Humiliation and the Infliction of Shame     201  12 Incest          Do We Really Fancy Our Family?         222  13 Can I Be Arrested for My Fantasies?          Extreme Sexual Violence                242  14 Teenagers and Children                      253  15 Sugar and Spice and Everything Nice         260PART THREE THE ORIGINS OF SEXUAL FANTASY  16 The Underbelly of the Normal Fantasy          Erotic Freedom or Sublimated Sadism?   269  17 “They’ve Scraped Out My Soul”          Struggling with Shame and Humiliation  289  18 Case History          Paris and the Ginger Pubic Hair        312  19 The Traumatic Roots of Sexual Fantasy       330  20 The Fourteen Functions of Sexual Fantasy 356  21 The Mysterious Boxing Gloves, Or, Can Fantasies Be Trauma-Free?   378PART FOUR SEXUAL FANTASIES A ND THE OUTSIDE WORLD  22 Do Fantasies Ruin Relationships?        399  23 Normality and Perversion in the Bedroom and the Boardroom                     417  24 Sanctum Sanctorum, Or, Probing the Unprobable                        430             Appendix: The Sexual Fantasy Research Questionnaire                       453       Acknowledgments                       477       Announcement: The Sexual Fantasy Research Project                    484       Index                                 485