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Poor, poor science–it gets blamed for everything. While it might be true that some of our alienation and unhappiness stem from a too-rational misunderstanding of emotion, it’s also true that science is its own remedy. A General Theory of Love, by San Francisco psychiatrists Thomas Lewis, Fari Amini, and Richard Lannon, is a powerfully humanistic look at the natural history of our deepest feelings, and why a simple hug is often more important than a portfolio full of stock options. Their grasp of neural science is topnotch, but the book is more about humans as social animals and how we relate to others–for once, the brain plays second fiddle to the heart.Though some of their social analysis is less than fully thought out–surely e-mail isn’t a truly unique form of communication, as they suggest–the work as a whole is strong and merits attention. Science, it turns out, does have much to say about our messy feelings and relationships. While much of it could be filed under “common sense,” it’s nice to know that common sense is replicable. Hard-science types will probably be exasperated with the constant shifts between data and appeals to emotional truths, but the rest of us will see in A General Theory of Love a new synthesis of research and poetry. –Rob LightnerAmazon link, with preview….Although the title is a bit of a misnomer — the book is more about low-level brain to brain connections than love, specifically — the observations lend some good theoretical background to the phenomenon of attraction, especially in the context of direct game. The scope is somewhat wide-ranging and moves between childhood development and adult interactions, and how the therapeutic process plays into this. However, the last two elements have significant parallels in seduction, IMHO, especially as reflected in AMP’s and Zan’s products.Recommended for those interested in the neurology involved in human interactions, especially close bonding.This is a conversion of my original pdf scan; I can upload that if desired, but it’s substantially larger.