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Esther Perel – Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the DomesticQuote:Esther Perel takes on tough questions, grappling with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. She invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.In her 20 years of clinical experience, Perel has treated hundreds of couples whose home lives are empty of passion. They describe relationships that are open and loving, yet sexually dull. What is going on?In this explosively original book, Perel explains that our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness, and absolute candor is antithetical to erotic desire for both men and women. Sexual excitement doesn’t always play by the rules of good citizenship. It is politically incorrect. It thrives on power plays, unfair advantages, and the space between self and other. More exciting, playful, even poetic sex is possible, but first we must kick egalitarian ideals and emotional housekeeping out of our bedrooms.While Mating in Captivity shows why the domestic realm can feel like a cage, Perel’s take on bedroom dynamics promises to liberate, enchant, and provoke. Flinging the doors open on erotic life and domesticity, she invites us to put the “X” back in sex.Open for everyoneNumber of pages: 264Year of publication: 2006Url: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000UODXP0/ref=dbs_a_def_r…Amazon rating: 4.5 out of 5 stars (597 reviews)Amazon 5 star review wrote:A friend asked me why he found sex with his wife “routine”. He said he loved his wife and having sex with her still felt good, but he didn’t feel “turned on”. Instead, he found himself fantasizing about sex with other women. This book answers that question completely and helps one explore the contradictions and congruity of love and sexuality.Amazon 5 star review wrote:Fascinating and enlightening. This is one of those books that make you better, educated, happier, confident and much more if you read this with a very open mind. Perel offers great insight into human desire — for love, sex, connection, space — and how we tend to thwart the very intimacy we crave by applying judgement to our desires. I haven’t read a better reason to be hopeful that long term relationships can maintain, even increase, passion and desire than this.Amazon 5 star review wrote:Anyone who desires or is in a long-term relationship should read this. This book had me hooked, I whizzed through it in about 2 days. Hugely enlightening and puts words to something I’ve always noticed but could never quite put my finger on. The gist is that love demands closeness, but erotic desire needs space to thrive. For modern American couples, who often have their lives so intertwined, this can lead to problems. Perel explores this seeming contradiction and sheds light on how modern couples can become aware of this and mediate it. This book is packed with wisdom. Enlightening read!May you find peace, true LOVE and prosperity,Aeon