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Everyone faces the challenges of making relationships work. Whether with spouses, family members, friends, lovers, or colleagues, relationships have the power to make one feel happy, frustrated, or miserable. In Relationship Breakthrough, Cloe Madanes—an expert in creating healing, empowering relationships—gives readers vital tools to transform their relationships and their lives. Madanes’s cutting-edge methods produce real results and create rewarding, sustainable relationships. Using simple, step-by-step exercises and drawing on the examples of clients who have benefited from this technique, Relationship Breakthrough teaches readers how to: – overcome life’s inevitable losses – resolve long-standing family conflicts – synchronize their needs with those of others – create outstanding relationships in every area of their lives This is the only book that ties the guiding principles of Tony Robbins’s work with Cloe Madanes’s revolutionary approach to relationship therapy. Our connections with the people in our lives have the capacity to bring us great joy, if only we understood the fundamental needs we all have, but sometimes express differently. Drawing on her trademark wisdom, empathy, and extensive clinical experience, Madanes shows readers how to better understand their own needs and those of others, bringing clarity and insight into any relationship.Editorial ReviewsAbout the AuthorTony Robbins is an entrepreneur, best-selling author, philanthropist, and the nation’s #1 Life and Business Strategist. A recognized authority on the psychology of leadership, negotiations, and organizational turnaround, he has served as an advisor to leaders around the world for more than 38 years. Author of five internationally bestselling books, including the recent New York Times #1 best-seller MONEY: MASTER THE GAME, Mr. Robbins has empowered more than 50 million people from 100 countries through his audio, video, and life training programs.Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.Chapter 1WHAT ARE YOU THINKING?Not much in life compares with the feeling of being a We, not just an I, of giving and receiving love freely, of being part of a team. The varieties of such relationships are legion: between spouses, lovers, parents and children, siblings, relatives, intimate friends, co-workers, neighbors. It is the feeling we get when we know someone is helping us “pull the wagon” in an endeavor, when someone “has our back.” There is immense joy in a happy, permanent relationship. Most of us want nothing more than a permanent bond with someone we love. Yet so often our relationships go bad, and we don’t know how to turn them around.We all want the perfect relationship; alas, there is no such thing. Relationships are messy. It’s how we deal with the messiness that makes the difference between a relationship filled with passion, growth, depth, and joy, and one that is mired in negative patterns of anger, blame, and boredom. A good relationship–whether with a partner, child, friend, or family member–is one of life’s greatest gifts, and there’s no reason to settle for anything less. When problems and conflicts arise, I counsel against exchanging one relationship for another, like a Christmas gift we take back for a store credit in hope of finding that thing we desire most. I believe most troubled relationships can be transformed into satisfying, rewarding ones. Simply falling into a great, long-lasting relationship is about as rare as finding a gold coin on the street. Good relationships take work, but we all have the capacity to create joyful, lasting, deeply satisfying connections in our lives.Relationships are not always what they appear to be. A submissive wife may actually dominate her husband, even though he is the one who appears dominating. A loving husband may only get angry responses from his wife– could his loving behavior possibly be the cause of her anger? How do we understand cause and effect in relationships? What are the sources of power that one person has over another? When we overcome a challenge, are we creating new problems? Is it possible to plan what will happen in relationships?The first step to changing a dysfunctional or unsatisfying relationship is to change our focus–to look underneath the obvious problem and focus on our underlying needs.It’s Likely You Created the Problem You Are Trying to SolveIt is human nature that when faced with difficulties in a relationship, we tend to blame the other person.”If my husband were not so rigid in his views about everything, then we could communicate. He becomes judgmental even before I can express myself!””I walk on eggshells around my son for fear that anything I might say could produce an emotional outburst!””He is so critical of everything I do! I am never good enough for him.””Her hostility is out of control. The moment she opens her mouth, I expect to be attacked.””He wants me to do everything for him, just like his mother did.”File Size: 703 KBPrint Length: 258 pagesPublisher: Rodale Books (September 29, 2009)http://www.amazon.com/Relationship-Breakthrough-Create-Outst…Audiobook Here: