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Discover the secret relationship between erotic, the sexual, and the sacred Sex is not negative or positive. Sex is not just neutral, nor is it merely sacred because it creates babies. None of these old sexual stories work for us anymore. We need a new sexual narrative. This book gives the new sexual narrative, what the authors call Sex Erotic. Erotic Mystics from the hidden tradition of Solomon’s temple taught a secret doctrine: sex is the source of all wisdom. It’s an expression of the erotic impulse of existence itself alive in us–the yearning for contact, pleasure, and aliveness. The sexual, however, is not the sum total of the erotic. Rather, the sexual teaches us how to live an erotic life in all dimensions of our existence. That is Sex Erotic. A Return to Eros: The Radical Experience of Being Fully Alive, from Drs. Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid, reveals the radical tenets of the relationships between the sexual, the erotic, and the holy. They share what Eros actually means and also the 12 core qualities of the erotic, which are modeled by the sexual. These include being on the inside, fullness of presence, yearning, allurement, fantasy, surrender, creativity, pleasure, and more.A Return to Eros shows why these qualities of the erotic modeled by the sexual are actually the same core qualities of the sacred. The relationship between the sexual and the erotic becomes clear, teaching you how to live an erotically suffused existence charged with purpose, potency, and power. To be an empowered lover—not just in sex but also in all facets of your life—you must listen to the whisperings of the sexual. Transform your understanding and experience of love, sex, and Eros inside these pages.Editorial ReviewsReview”Marc and Kristina are going where few dare to to go and showing us what it means to live a fully erotic life!”–Dr. John Gray, author of Beyond Venus and Mars”A Return to Eros is a tour de force of the kind thatcomes along once in a generation. The way this volume brings Eros toconsciousness as the fundamental force direction and ‘purpose’ of reality onall levels and all quadrants, really is the discovery that now underlies,directs, and “explains” the sacred purpose of cosmogenesis, the birthnarrative of the New Human. It’s the second coming of humanity for the first time in historyincarnate as a fully embodied sacred sexual being. It’s the early stages of next evolutionary unfolding. A Return to Eros forms the basis ofevolutionary spirituality. It captures the glory of its conscious experiencefrom the inside out in the sexuality and Eros of the evolutionary unique self. It’s the experiential basis of the next stage of living andloving. It’s the deepest reason for profound sexual yearning. It’s vitaland is truly the only path beyond shame. It must not be denied. It reveals the very nature of ‘God-in-evolution’. It is the answer to my life question: What is the meaning of ournew power that is good? The answer is the manifestation of Evolutionary Creator Love inhuman form to its next level of the supra mental genius as consciously guidedself and social evolution. It’s the source energy, which can arouse the Planetary Awakeningthrough Unique Self Symphony. It is the juicy and delicious fruit of the joining of genius.Sexuality and suprasexuality become one. God ‘Took the Risk’ in revealing E = MC2, the genetic code–thelanguage of science–to give humans the powers of our ancient gods to use. What the authors call ‘Love or Die’ is the new commandment of theontic human. It is conscious evolution revealed as erotic evolution made awareof us in our loving.It is the fundamental sacralization of sex at all levels. The authors make the radical claim, which I believe is true, thatwhen this force is not recognized, when it is denied, the result is abuse,weather in the form of rape culture or in the false complaints that attempt therape of a name. It is only, the authors tell us, ‘when we embrace the fullbeauty of our embodied Eros, not merely in the sexual but in every dimension ofour lives.’ Marc Gafni, the first author of this book, is an Erotic Radical.He incarnates the evolutionary Eros and articulates it’s teaching in way thatseveral steps ahead of the generation. As such he has, as radicals often do,born the cross of a new vision, seen his actions falsified and distorted,ordinary mistakes pathologized. But as I have witnessed myself in a thousandconversations, he has kept his heart open in love, and turned his sufferinginto a gift and his pain into art. I am proud to stand with me belovedevolutionary partner Marc in offering vitally needed gift at this moment in ourevolution.”Marc’s co-author on this volume, Kristina Kincaid, herselfincarnates evolutionary Eros through her work with the body. Mentored by theleading edge somatic teachers of our time, she understands the inseparableconnection between one’s sexuality, one’s emotionality and how that relationshipis mirrored through our relationship to life. She brings a deep embodiedunderstanding of the flow of Eros, love, and sexuality through the body and howit can radically transform our lives and birth the new human. A human beingthat is unarmored in the body, connected through the heart and to all oflife.” –Barbara Marx Hubbard, Author of Conscious Evolution”A Return to Eros is poetry. And not just poetry inspirituality, where poetry often catalyzes the spirit. Nor in eroticism, towhich poetry often opens the door. But poetry in philosophy, poetry in science,and poetry in history–where poetry is often a stranger. A Return to Eros does not fit into anyrecognizable genre. It is not pure scholarship even as it is scholarly. It isnot self-help even as it inspires transformation. It is not religious in natureeven as it offers visions that seek to unify the agnostic and thefundamentalist. In fact, part of the delight of A Return to Eros is theelement of surprise: Will we be treated to history or the future? To spiritualinsight or scientific fact? To philosophy’s sustainable gifts or to Gafni andKincaid’s reworking of those gifts toward the deepening of our future eroticwisdom. When it comes to the future of love, sex, and eros, what societyoften sees as black or white, the authors see in shades of grey. They invite usto confront our cognitive dissonance: ‘puritanism lives side-by-side withpromiscuity.’ Or: ‘We are not sure whether we are living in the golden age ofsex or in a rape culture.’ The authors venture where others fear to tread: howwe deal with rape of the body versus rape of a reputation should there be afalse accusation. Yet still greater gifts of A Return to Eros are not in itssurprises but in its weaving of diverse insights into a vision that is greaterthan the sum if it parts. The authors’ integration of the disciplines presentsus with a tapestry that reweaves the source code of culture. We dance to themusic of the tango that was sex and eros and then listen for the tango that sexand eros can become. A Return to Eros, then, is paradoxical: Itis both the return of eros and the future of eros. It is the return of love,sex, and eros; and the future of love, sex, and eros. It is about the historyof religion’s constraints on sex; and about the history of religion’s lack ofconstraints on sex–especially how the esoterics’ embrace of sex forge theerotic and holy into one. As we discover religion’s esoterics embracing theerotic, we awaken our personal potential to heal our relationship withreligion. It soon becomes no surprise when Gafni and Kincaid declare that AReturn to Eros is all about sex and not at all about sex. Although A Return to Eros is a return to the wisdom ofSolomon’s Temple, the Magdalene Mysteries, and Da Vinci, it is not a book aboutthe past. Rather, it is a vision rooted in wisdoms forgotten from our past thatinspire a more erotic future–what Gafni and Kincaid call a ‘memory of thefuture.’ All of this may make us yearn for simpler answers. But we recallGafni’s warning: When simplicity falls short of reality, it leaves us feeling disappointedand disillusioned. A Return to Eros selects for readers who know thatbringing the unconscious to the conscious level rewards us with the capacity tocontrol our own lives–even if part of that control is the choice to ‘let go,and let God.’ And when we bring philosophies like ‘let go, and let God’ to theconscious level, we discover when we are using it to avoid responsibility.Eros, like golf, requires our both taking control of the way we hit the balleven as we let go of control of the way we hit the ball. To Gafni and Kincaid,holding the paradox of eros is a taste of paradise. A Return to Eros considers ‘Eros to be thecenter of our reality . . . to live erotically not merely in the sexual but inevery facet of being.’ Their examination of the twelve faces of the Erotic, andthe many wrinkles among those faces, is like being conscious of every drop inthe next shower you take. The mere experience of considering every drop of theshower as if they were ‘all there is’ will leave you feeling as enlivened asyou will feel after reading A Return to Eros.” –Warren Farrell, PhD, Author of The Myth of Male PowerReview”Marc and Kristina are going where few dare to go. They are showing us what it means to live a fully erotic life.”―John Gray, bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus”A Return to Eros is the map for the new human. Read it and be forever enlivened and transformed! I believe this is the most compelling invitation ever written to live the Erotic Life. It changed my life.”―Kristen Ulmer, former professional extreme skier and author of The Art of Fear”Surrender to this book. Erudite, provocative, and filled with lively insights, there is much to be learned from it about the sexual confusion of our times.”―Adam Bellow, author of In Praise of Nepotism: A History of Family Enterprise from King David to George W. Bush”A Return to Eros is a book written with no hang-ups, no compromises, and no holds barred. It rocks!”―Jonny Podell, iconic American rock ‘n’ roll music agent at the Podell Talent Agency”I’ve known Kristina for many decades . . . great to see she is sharing her life work with the world . . . Join the outrageous love train!”―Shep Gordon, legendary rock ‘n’ roll manager and New York Times bestselling author of They Call Me Supermensch”A Return to Eros is a powerful and thought-provoking book―which has the potential to transform your life.”―Sally Kempton, author of Awakening Shakti”A Return to Eros should be placed on the shelf next to the great works on emotional and sexual emancipation, including Marcuse’s Eros and Civilization and O Brown’s Life Against Death. Gafni and Kincaid remind us that eros and ethics are inseparable, that we must free the erotic from the ghetto of the merely sexual, and in so doing awaken our passion for truth and justice. There may be no more urgent lesson for our culture, which now stands on the brink of another descent into barbarism, that it is through and from love that true power flows.”―Zak Stein, EdD (Harvard), academic director of the Center for Integral Wisdom, faculty at Meridian University, scientific advisor for Neurohacker Collective, and cofounder of Lectica, Inc.File Size: 1636 KBPrint Length: 530 pagesPublisher: BenBella Books (August 29, 2017)http://www.amazon.com/Return-Eros-Radical-Experience-Being-e…