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Don’t Bring It to Work: Breaking the Family Patterns That Limit Success elib.tech Exclusive… Sharing Elsewhere Will Result In Being Banned!When people walk through your door in the morning, they don’t leave their problems behind. And that creates problems at work. Problems at home create, at the very least, distractions in the workplace. Many safety issues have been linked to preoccupied employees. The failure to deal with issues that are brought to work can result in high turnover, poor productivity, low morale and poor communication. What you bring to work is not only your problems but the behavioral patterns that, in many cases, caused them. In Don’t Bring it to Work, Sylvia Lafair says that much of what you bring to work are patterns of behavior that are driven by the roles we learned in our families as children. And when the going gets tough, the tough frequently revert to old family patterns. Lafair describes the 13 most common destructive patterns in the workplace — including the super-achiever, the rebel, the procrastinator, the clown, the persecutor, the victim, the rescuer, the drama queen or king, the martyr, the pleaser, the avoider, the denier, the splitter — and explains how they got that way, and how to tell (a Pattern Aware Quiz is included) if any of this baggage from your own background is weighing down your career. The action step is not to break your patterns but to transform them; to become a “better, more developed, more fulfilled version of the person you already are.” For instance: From Super-Achiever to Creative Collaborator From Rebel to Community Builder From Procrastinator to Realizer From Clown to Humorist From Persecutor to Visionary From Victim to Explorer From Rescuer to Mentor From Drama Queen or King to Storyteller From Martyr to Integrator From Pleaser to Truth Teller From Avoider to Initiator From Denier to Trust Builder From Splitter to Peacemaker So the Rebel might sound like, “Can you believe he was so demeaning to her at the meeting? I’m going to tell her to get back at him by complaining to HR.” But the Community Builder would say, “In my old pattern, I would have loved to stir things up; however, it’s a waste of time, so I’ll talk to him privately about my concerns.” “We like to think we are rational leaders,” writes Lafair. “Yet the fact is that we don’t always tailor our actions to the actual demands of a situation. Instead, we fall back on old ways of responding that are emotionally laden and sometimes horrendously counterproductive.” If you’re looking to deal with your old defensive behavior patterns and capitalize on your inner strengths, Don’t Bring it to Work would be a good place to start.ReviewThis book is emotionally engaging and the message is fantastic.–Robert Sutton, Professor of Management Science and Engineering, Stanford University, Author, No Asshole RuleThis engaging book has a powerful core message. We’re bringing family dynamics – from childhood and even from our parents’ childhoods – to work. – and the results are not pretty. Packed with stories of workplace dynamics gone awry – and, then, amazingly enough, transformed by Lafair’s compassionate approach – the book is immensely readable. You will be motivated to create change for the better.–Amy Edmondson, Novartis Professor of Leadership and Management, Harvard Business School, Harvard UniversityWonderful insights for anyone who manages a business, works in a business, or leads a business. Read it now!–Michael E. Gerber, Author, The E-Myth BooksSylvia Lafair’s book brings a rare view of “systems” and “systems thinking,” is helpful to individuals and families, as well as business people working to build appreciation, cohesion and success.–Frances Hesselbein, Chairman and Founding President, Leader to Leader InstituteDr. Sylvia Lafair has written a superb book on working relationships that should be on every executive’s desk and used by anyone who is in the business of depending on efficient teamwork for productivity. Her reflections of how our family systems can sabotage our working lives are brilliant and totally applicable in practical terms. This is a must for all business programs, regardless of how large or small.–Dr. Frank Lawlis, Author, Mending The Broken BondThrough Sylvia Lafair’s astute work, you will see yourself, your co-workers and your family dynamics in an entirely new light. More importantly, this will help you change the patterns that have been keeping you from reaching your highest potential. This ranks with the best business and psychology books on the market; not only is it insightful and practical—it’s a great read!–Anita Sharpe, CEO & Founder of GeniusSuite, Pulitzer Prize Winning Writer at The Wall Street JournalA phenomenal book! Sylvia’s insights, experience and her brilliant communication style make her one of the leading experts in this field. I have had the honor of working with Sylvia over many years and can attest to the power of her methods in transforming co-workers into highly functioning team members. This really works!–Eslie Dennis, MD, VP Medical Head Northeast, Novartis Pharmaceuticals CorporationMost educators’ feel they are standing sentry over a system under siege on all fronts. It’s exhausting! Sylvia Lafair shows us effective ways to make change happen. This seminal book provides me the Holy Grail to forge a strong team on behalf of our mission to prepare children for the future. I’ve been waiting for this for 35 years.–Linda C. Brewer, Ed. D., Superintendent, Derry Township School DistrictSylvia takes a highly personalized approach to Leadership Development. She helps each person become more aware of their personal styles, their possible origins and raises behavior patterns to a conscious level. From awareness comes change. I found great value in applying these lessons both at work and home to successfully balance demanding jobs, motherhood and a 2 career marriage.–Nancy Singer, Senior Director, Global Sales and Marketing Leadership Development, Merck & Co., Inc.This book helps bring a new way of doing business. It changed the way we run our company and the results are significant. This sentence says it all, “It is time to get out of the sandbox of childhood and gain a deeper knowledge of the fact that we are all connected and no one wins unless we all do.”  This book is a “must have” for Supervisors all the way up to top Executives of the company.–Yvonne Cangelosi, Executive VP, SPEX CertiPrep, Inc.